
We’re still going to tell you what we think, though: we think it stinks. We think his attitude towards gay people is abysmal. Not just here, but since getting elected; he’s demonstrated a pattern of subtly dissing gay people and our concerns. During the campaign he promised to be a "fierce advocate" for gay equality. Many gay voters hoped his opposition to marriage for gay couples was a pragmatic concession for votes, and believed him when he said he favored civil unions that offered rights equal to marriage. He promised to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act, which prohibits federal recognition of same-sex marriages, because he didn't think laws should discriminate against gay people. He promised to repeal the "don't ask, don't tell" policy. We knew he would govern from the middle, but he seemed willing to address our concerns. We believed in him.


Look, we know Rome wasn’t built in a day. Obama’s only been in office 4 months and he’s got a lot to deal with; the economy is in crisis and we have some pretty enormous international concerns to deal with. But especially in light of those issues, wouldn’t now be a good time to ensure gay partners can share health benefits without an unfair tax burden? Is this really the time to still be discharging qualified military experts simply because they’re gay? Since we do have bigger fish to fry, why are these outmoded policies allowed to continue?
We still support Obama, but we’re growing concerned, and not just about lame jokes. We knew during the campaign that there were groups he had to reach out to in order to build a winning coalition, including some socially conservative factions. We were ok with that, as long as he kept the commitments he made to us during the campaign. We’re not sure he is, though.
We still support Obama, but we’re growing concerned, and not just about lame jokes. We knew during the campaign that there were groups he had to reach out to in order to build a winning coalition, including some socially conservative factions. We were ok with that, as long as he kept the commitments he made to us during the campaign. We’re not sure he is, though.

We’re not naïve; we know that politicians will say certain things to get elected, then conveniently "forget" (or just change their tune) once they’re in office. We know that, even though polls are moving in the right direction, it’s still a political tight-rope act to implement policies of equality for gay people. We’re still bothered, though, by this nagging feeling that this administration doesn’t consider our concerns to be very important. We understand that the economy and the wars demand a great deal of attention, and that tackling big gay political issues might have to wait until after the mid-term elections, or even until a potential second term. It’s troubling, though, that he can’t use his politically deft speaking skills to reiterate his commitment to gay rights. It's troubling that he can't even speak of us at all as President, unless he's cracking a joke.
Candidate Obama promised to be a “fierce advocate of equality for gay and lesbian Americans.” President Obama seems to have forgotten that promise, or assigned it such a low priority that it’s fallen completely off his radar. Gay issues may be a low priority for him, but not for us.

We haven't given up; we still love this President, and we want to see him succeed. But we intend to hold him accountable to the commitments he made. He campaigned on two promises in particular, two ideas that we, like many, truly believed in; change, and hope. He hasn't given us the change he promised us, yet. We still hope he will, though.
We'll be waiting.
